Emo blah blah blah.

This year, in November, Chris and I will be married for 5 years.

For those that don’t know, we got married very randomly. We were in TGIFriday’s, having dinner, talking about moving to Washington (which never happened, obviously). Washington doesn’t view common law marriages as legal, and that’s what I was getting ready to get my benefits as in Colorado. We had been living together for 6 months (together on and off for 4 years), and wanted to make sure that no matter where we went, we would be able to have benefits.

“Wanna get married then?”


And we did. No, seriously. We tried right after that. Went to the courthouse that close 20 minutes before. So, the next day, we went and got our marriage license, then got married at the county clerk by solemnizing ourselves (we didn’t have a judge or a witness help us). I got married in rainbow fuzzy slippers (the link are the ones I was wearing) and yoga pants. It was romantic as fuck in my eyes, and I am super fucking excited that we didn’t have to go through the bullshit of planning and freaking out and omfgwhyareyouputtingthatcolorwiththatcolor. Then we went to my mom’s work and slammed the certificate on her car window while she was taking a nap in it (she was working split shifts and in between shifts she slept…don’t be a jerk, she wasn’t sleeping ON the job….like some of her other coworkers…). All we heard from the car…


Then she proceeded to call my grandmother. “Your oldest granddaughter just got married!”

Yeah. We didn’t think about the rest of the family. The amount of shit we still get for that decision is annoyingly hilarious.

Because of this, we plan on having a ceremony. Shit, Chris and I have been wanting a ceremony for many years. Something small, very small, and kind of a vow renewal. I still want a pretty dress (the amount of dresses you can find on Etsy for an amazing price is AWESOME), and Chris wants to wear a tux…and maybe a kilt. I am still very iffy about that. :\

This is all incredibly long to get to my point. (FUN FACT)

Since we’ll be married 5 years, we both thought that this would be a terrific year to do that sort of thing. I think it kind of snuck up on both of us, really. I won’t be back in his arms until August, and then we’ll be spending all the money we’ve saved up to get a place of our own and build our life back up. I really don’t see anything happening with a ceremony DEEPLY PROFESSING OUR LOVE TO EACH OTHER AND OH GOD GET THE MUSHY OFF OF ME.

This is actually incredibly depressing. It’s not like we aren’t married and aren’t incredibly happy or need to do this to spice up our life. It’s something that we’ve been wanting to do for a few years now to appease our entire family, to make me feel pretty, to have a ceremony story instead of “oh, right, we just skipped everything because we’re kind of lazy”. To be fair, that really is how our relationship is; very spontaneous. I know, grass is greener and all, but I would like a ceremony story, too. And I want Lorien to come out and take awesome pictures of it (because, holy shit, she is the best photographer I know). I want WEDDING PHOTOS. I want both worlds.

What I want most is photos with my husband. Because, seriously, try to find some. It’s actually kind of hard to do. :\

So, that’s what this whole post was about. Me whining about wanting to have a ceremony this year and it’s definitely not going to happen. We’re such big number nerds that doing it any other year than a multiple of 5 would just feel wrong. :< Blargh.


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Yo Mommies
    Feb 17, 2012 @ 17:48:47

    And you want your Auntie Ick to perform the ceremony since she’s an ordained minister?


  2. Desiree Marshall
    Feb 18, 2012 @ 01:20:30

    I’ve been reading along for a while now. I just wanted to drop you a comment to say keep up the good work.


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